You download the app and subscribe to the premium option. You’re serious this time. You follow the prompts. You follow all the advice you’ve been given. You just know this time you are going to see the results you’re wanting. Are we talking about dieting or dating? Or both?

One of the biggest lies that diet culture sells you in subtle and not so subtle ways is that you aren’t thinner because you lack self-control and willpower.

And it is super convincing. You believe that your lack of self-control is what is standing in the way between a healthier, thinner and happier you.

If only you could stay on track

If only you could control your portion sizes better

If only you could keep your hands off of the “junk” food in the house

If only you drank more water

If only you didn’t stress or emotionally eat

It feels terrible to feel like it is all your fault. That there is something wrong with you. That you are lazy. That you lack self-control.